The *Secret* Way To An Awesome Life: 4 Insights Backed By Research
€™ve got a secret. In fact, I’ve got 13 of them. So do you. That’s the average number of secrets people say they have when surveyed. Five of them are “complete secrets” – you’ve never told anybody. And eight more are “confided secrets” – you’ve told at least one other person but won’t be going public with it anytime soon. A study of 2000 people in the US revealed the most common types of secrets. 92% of the time secrets…
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This Is The #1 Ritual You Need To Do Every Day
fore the match, you have to take a freezing-cold shower. Every time. When you walk on the tennis court, never step on the lines. Oh, and always cross the lines with your right foot first. Your tournament ID has to be face up. Always. Consume an energy gel during your warm-up and make sure to squeeze it four times. Not three times. Not five times. Four. Hop up and down as the ref does the coin toss. Then run to…
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This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Arguments: 4 Secrets
rk didn’t mean to cut the guy off. The man in the pickup truck honked repeatedly. Mark nodded at him: Sorry. But a few minutes later Mark accidentally cut the guy off again. And that’s when things went sideways… The man raced his truck forward and blocked Mark’s car. With both vehicles now stopped, the guy got out. All six-foot-five and three hundred pounds of him. (If I was Mark I would have considered calling ahead to reserve one of…
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Ancient Traditions Reveal 2 Rituals That Will Make You An Awesome Parent
’re often presented with an image of parenting that is a bit too perfect. Like a Norman Rockwell scene preserved in a snowglobe. But all too often parents wake up to realize they were cast in a reality show without their permission. The kids cause more problems in 4 minutes than I could get into in 4 years. You wonder if your genetics have spawned an unholy chimera of you and you partner’s worst traits. It gets to a point…
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This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets
mie was one of the nicest and warmest people I’d ever met. He was also one of the most dangerous people I’d ever met. Jamie was two-time national champion in Kali. Kali is the martial art they taught Matt Damon for the Jason Bourne movies. And at this point Jamie was training for the world championships. Day in, day out, nothing else. The last thing you wanna do in a fight is think. You train until every technique is an…
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New Neuroscience Reveals 5 Rituals That Will Make Your Life Awesome
e fact that they fell in love was, on the surface, ridiculous. She was a leading researcher on love. He was the leading researcher on loneliness. And yet it happened. Ironic? Poetic? Probably both. Steph was at a boring academic lecture. The guy next to her whispered in her ear: “If I start snoring, punch me.” She giggled. The man seated to her other side was already dozing. Steph whispered back: “He’s snoring. Do you want me to punch him,…
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This Is How To Get People To Change: 5 Secrets From Research
ying to help someone change can be sanity-straining. Even when people face serious health scares they often don’t do enough to alter their habits, like they’re stuck on some monorail track of doom. That said, we often go about trying to help in all the wrong ways. We know that lectures probably don’t help -- but we often find ourselves doing it anyway. It’s like the reasons we give them for changing have almost no effect at all… And, actually,…
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The Lazy Way To An Awesome Life
e old maxim says that with others you should just “be yourself.” But is that really true? In researching my new book, Plays Well With Others, I went down the rabbit hole to see whether it’s accurate -- and also what we can do to be our best selves. (Never be ashamed of who you are... that's your parents' job.) In the excerpt below we’re going to learn a dead simple way to become more of the person you want to…
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