What 6 secrets can the oldest couples teach us about how to have a long, happy relationship?
rl Pillemer of Cornell University interviewed nearly 1500 people age 70 to 100+ for his book “30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans.” What did they have to say about long, happy relationships? Via 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans: Here’s the “refrigerator list” of lessons for successful married life: 1. Marry someone a lot like you. Similarity in core values and background is the key to a happy marriage.…
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6 ways to prevent your relationship from boring you to death:
bsp; 1) Realize a slowdown is normal You can't expect it to stay like it was during those first few torrid months. No one can sprint for miles. A downshifting is natural, so don't let some slowing down make you think there are deeper relationship problems. Via The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does: ...the heightened passion and chemical attraction evident at the beginning of a love affair have…
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Who is feeling loved today?
onomists Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers have an interesting piece over at Bloomberg breaking down who feels loved using Gallup data from 136 countries. Are you a middle-aged, cohabitating, female American? Then you might be feeling pretty warm and fuzzy right now: On a typical day, about 70 percent of people worldwide reported a love-filled day. In the U.S., 81 percent felt love, as did 81 percent of Canadians and 79 percent of Italians. Germany and the U.K. were less…
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Do even white lies harm a relationship?
s. Via Lying: At least one study suggests that 10 percent of communication between spouses is deceptive. Another has found that 38 percent of encounters among college students contain lies. However, researchers have discovered that even liars rate their deceptive interactions as less pleasant than truthful ones. This is not terribly surprising: We know that trust is deeply rewarding and that deception and suspicion are two sides of the same coin. Research suggests that all forms of lying—including white lies…
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Here’s How Men And Women Show Love Differently, According To Research
a The Boston Globe: When men felt more in love, they were indeed more likely to initiate sex; women feeling more in love were actually less likely to initiate sex. And rather than being more affectionate than their husbands, women mainly expressed love by being less antagonistic and more accommodating. Men feeling more in love, meanwhile, were not less negative—but rather showed it by being more interested in doing things with their wives. Also: Studies show that, in general, men…
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10 Things That Will Change The Way You Think About Love
udies show that, in general, men are actually more romantic than women. Men also say "I love you" first, have more positive recollections of their first kiss, and are more likely to end a relationship because it lacked "magic." Saying "I love you" means the most to men and women at different times. Flowers really do increase romantic feelings. Uncertainty does too. There are shortcuts to bonding with a romantic partner on a deeper level. You can tell if people…
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How Your Parents’ Appearance Affects Who You Marry
n are more likely to date women with the same eye color as their mom. Women are more likely to date men with the same eye color as their father. Via In Your Face: The New Science of Human Attraction: The single best predictor for partners’ eye colour was the eye colour of the parent of the opposite sex. Thus, if a woman’s mother had blue eyes and if her father had brown eyes, she would be most likely to…
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Research Says These Complaints Signal The End Of A Relationship
ose that don't contain the word "but." Unqualified complaints were more common in relationships that weren't going well. Via 59 Seconds: Change Your Life in Under a Minute: Perhaps the most important difference came down to just one word—“but.” When talking about their partner’s greatest faults, those in successful relationships tended to qualify any criticism. Her husband was lazy, but that gave the two of them reason to laugh. His wife was a terrible cook, but as a result they…
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