tirement. The mythical Promised Land where every day is a Saturday. No more punching the clock, no more staff meetings, no more pretending to be interested in Sharon’s photos from her third trip to Dollywood. Retirement is often presented like a montage from a pharmaceutical ad: biking through scenic parks with a face radiating pure joy, like you just swallowed a bottle of sunshine. And it can be like that. For a little while. Um, in the beginning, at least……
ppiness. It's the one characteristic everyone goes on about like it's the golden ticket to the Wonka factory of life. And maintaining happiness, well, yeeeeesh. It's a relentless pursuit in a world that constantly shifts the goalposts. You're trying to maintain a sunny disposition in an era where the news cycle is less "informative briefing" and more "24/7 carnival of despair." The world might feel like your oyster, but unfortunately, you're allergic to shellfish. Everybody thinks they have answers. The…
all get a little sad sometimes. It feels like the universe is a twisted gameshow called "How Can We Torture This Poor Soul Today?" -- and you’re the contestant. Other times it can escalate into full-on depression and that dark cloud of emotions follows you around like a fart in a spacesuit. Trying to get anything done feels like trying to climb a mountain of razor blades with a backpack full of anvils while a broken sound system plays…
t’s begin with a cruel little fact… Iris Mauss, a psychologist at the University of California, Berkeley, found that those who worked the hardest to be happier ended up being unhappier on every measure she studied. Huh? Trying to live a better life fails miserably? Might be time to close up shop on this blog. Well, we had a good run. It’s been fun. Bye... Seriously though, let’s put a pin in that one for now. We’ll get to it…
me days everything seems to be outside your comfort zone. A bit of anxiety is part of the modern world. Worry about that presentation at work, worry about the kids at home, worry about what’s on the news… worry, worry worry. Worst-case scenarios ping pong around in the echo chamber of your skull. Your brain is like a close friend who keeps trying to kill you. You can try to think your way out of this but, if you’re an…
had been a wonderful day. Now he was going for his usual 4-mile walk. What made today special was his grown children had come home. They hadn’t all been together in six months. And there was even a new member of the family: his first grandchild. Three months old and adorable. He mused about how wonderful it all was… And that’s when the car hit him. He was thrown 14 feet and landed in a ditch. He was going…
e autopsies would show they had coughed so hard their abdominal muscles had been torn apart. And some of the bodies had actually turned blue. From The Great Influenza: Cyanosis occurs when a victim turns blue because the lungs cannot transfer oxygen into the blood. In 1918 cyanosis was so extreme, turning some victims so dark—the entire body could take on color resembling that of the veins on one’s wrists—it sparked rumors that the disease was not influenza at all,…
Why is it so hard to be happy all the time? Why can’t our lives be more like the joyous families in insurance commercials and less like the lives of people making insurance claims? So what does the research say can make us happier? Mindfulness. It comes from Buddhism but we…
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